In case I had forgotten that appreciation was non-existent...

Following my gifting Olga a pair of fancy new shoes (..which she picked in order to ensure she truly fancied them - and I footed the bill), she responded:

"it's not a gift, it's a necessity"

Numerous abuses in the meantime, but seconds ago..

..Olga attacked me for taking too long to give Dunia a kiss before her afternoon nap.

The banter between Dunia and I went on for 20 to 30 seconds before Olga complained that I should just kiss her and leave the room, so that she could get on with breastfeeding her to sleep.

The pleasure of father and daughter in front of her face irritates her.

The jealousy towards Dunia and My relationship is epic..

..and the anger and swearing that are manifestations of this have produced a new manifestation.

When Olga hit my hand away from near to Dunia's mouth (..she'd just picked something up of the ground and put it in her mouth..) and swore at me... Dunia leapt in and echo'd her sentiments.

'Pushol v jjjop" was uttered plus the hits against my hand were also replicated.

Past few weeks have been unbelievably repugnant..

..suffice to say

Insults and violence have been dished out by the wife.

She deceives her friends when she tells them that she is making any effort to resolve problems.

She is constantly seeking to provoke a fight or trouble generally.. and then seeks to allot responsibility on my shoulders for doing so.

In taking this even a step further, when 2 year old Dunia asked "Mummy, stop it" as she began screaming at me this morning.. Olga said "Dad is bad." .. "It's not Mummy Dunia. Dad is the bad one.".. I simply left this without response.. Given nothing provoked the earlier behaviour, the volatility that could ensue as a result of responding is too much.

Olga is looking for an excuse to justify taking Dunia and running back to singlehood.

Olga's Mum finishes work early today..

..and so Olga told me that my morning walk with Dunia is cancelled.

She stated she calls the shots on when and who Dunia is with.

And that I do not have a right to expect that I can walk with her when I want.

Rather, now that summer is upon us and school is imminently out, her mother is expected to consume the majority of the time.

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When I said she is our child - not hers or mine exclusively, she rejected this as meaningless.

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Further, when I stated that she did not visit a sperm donor clinic to get a child.. she stated (in alignment with recent messaging to and contact with other guys) that she will be getting a sperm donation from someone else soon.

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In terms of clear impact on Dunia, today was one of the worst.

Screaming, she ran to me and was comforted by my hug... Olga then came and dragged her out of my arms, took her to the bedroom and closed the door (..no doubt breastfeeding and whatever whispers are concomitant ensued)

Nightmare continues..

..Olga comes in after attending a funeral.

She was out from 2 until 4pm, when the reason we came home from the park was that Dunia was clearly very tired.

...

Notwithstanding knowing that Dunia sleeps to the rhythm of her breastfeeding, I was attacked for not having put Dunia to sleep.

Worse was to come..

Following the sarcasm "we (ie Dunia) cannot sleep without your kiss" (..which related to my entering the bedroom to kiss Dunia, and wish her a good sleep prior to the breastfeed..)

..a full blasted attack and physical strikes followed from my responding to Dunia's "booby, booby" request with the answer "booby is coming darling, just a moment" (..as Olga was at this point in the kitchen and soon to return).

Olga struck me, screamed at me and attributed suicide to people like me (..the funeral waas for someone who had committed suicide).

The fact that her behaviour caused Dunia to scream and cry didn't appear to inhibit her performance.

I felt sick in the stomach yesterday..

..when I called out to Olga to come and enjoy a beautiful moment

where Dunia said (in response to my suggestion we go and get prepare her dinner in the kitchen and then return for a picnic on the balcony)

"You go.. and I stay"

..

Olga came to the balcony and then said "Yeah.. so what?"

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additionally 2 afternoons back Olga rejected helping Dunia sit on my back on the grass (whilst I was to play the role of horse-y on all fours in the park) .. she said "there are limits" (ie this was one) .. and "you are an adult" .. the expression ludicrous narrow mindedness doesn't quite capture the despair I felt..

It's 11.30pm and Olga's been gone for over 2 hours..

..just managed to get Dunia to sleep

Olga's words before walking out were "I don't care what anyone thinks" .. implication being that 'wrongdoing' by some measure was about to be done.

In addition, I was attacked for choosing not to work for peanuts (in Belarus) and for being too close to Dunia (when "all the magazines say" that it is Mum who must be the closest to the child).

Also, when I responded to what was said, Olga stated "my Mum has an answer for everything you say"

Hot water has been cut off in the region...

...and so this morning I boiled water in preparation for hygeinic rituals required for Dunia and Olga.

Instead of a 'thank you for your thoughtfulness', I was lambasted by Olga

"What's this for?"

"Why so much? Why are you wasting water?" (I had just poured a jug of hot water into a container from which Dunia would have her bum bum cleaned..)

Extraordinary. Truly extraordinary.

Then this was followed with a more general abuse stating that I am doing nothing and that when I do anything it is not from my heart.

Again, spectacularly ill-informed. And saying more about Olga (& her mindset when doing anything at home) than about me.

"Why don't you ask me if I need the water?" was this mornings reproach

"Why are you asking me if I want brocolli?" was last nights reproach (..when I asked if she'd like some too.. as I was preparing some for Dunia at the time)

Truly damned if you do and damned if you don't.

And truly funny if it wasn't real.

"..There is always instruction"

with a fuck you tone included..

after I said "we don't need instruction in working out how to take Dunia & the stroller upstairs"

..Dunia was in my arms. Olga was near the stroller. We were downstairs at our apartment building.

Sister Lena called out to her and instructed her to take Dunia from me and that I ought to be taking the stroller up to Level 1 where we leave it.

..the destructive moments then followed.

" Fuck off 'dibil' " were words I literally had to absorb soon afterwards.

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Earlier in the eve, and very distressingly to me.. when I asked Olga if she too was thrilled to see how joyful Dunia was when she at one with music.. and she closes her eyes and you see her feeling her way to the sound.. she replied that she doesn't like it; because Dunia "looks unwell" when she closes her eyes and swings about to the sound.

How can a mother (not so much say such things, but as to) feel such things and claim to have unconditional love.

Fishy kiss, fishy kiss..

..Dunia laughs and kisses Daddy

Olga then reproaches me - "fishy kiss is mine. It's my invention; you can come up with something else."

Again spectacularly ludicrous.

Further, if the same logic were to be applied in reverse, most of what Olga does now to enlighten and enliven Dunia would need to stop..

For the past half an hour or so

Olga has been in the bathroom..

scrubbing a toy from her childhood..

a plastic doll which Dunia has drawn on with crayon.

She screamed at me, and was literally teary, about Dunia having done this.

My allowing Dunia to express herself freely was attacked, and I was blamed for this scenario. Extraordinary.

Anger if she is referred to as anything except "Mummy"..

..and yet, the norm has become (for Olga) to call me "Omran" in front of Dunia (rather than "Daddy" as per the previous norm)

As Dunia headed out for her walk with Olga moments ago, she said "I love you Daddy" as she hugged me..

As a result of Dunia's comment & action - and in a complete contrast to the emotions Dunia expressed - Olga gave me a look of disdain and jealousy.

Deleted pictures..

..First it was the evidence of the violence from Valentines Day; bloodied arm, bruises elsewhere

..today the disgusting state re hygiene in the kitchen & all (..3 day build up was photographed before I cleaned it all this morning.. but the evidence has been swiped by Olga before I managed to note it down..)

Un-noted are numerous abusive scenarios...

Of lesser significance, but nevertheless continual..

Olga attempts to minimise any joint (mother & father together with child) activity.

If she is going for a walk with Dunia, and I mention joining, she states there is no need for 2.

If she is going and her mother is going, and I mention joining, she states there is no need for 3.

If she is going and her mother and her sister are going too, and I mention joining, she states there is no need for 4.

...Etc.

When at the playground today, and with Dunia joyfully interacting with me, she complained that (1) I communicate too much with Dunia, instead of just letting her play alone and (2) that there was no need for her to be present... and then she went home.

Re (1), it's totally acceptable that her father is completely talkative and interactive when near to Dunia.. Ditto re her mother..

The attempts to push me away are less and less subtle.

The jealousy and other spiteful emotions left unchecked are on track to damage Dunia.

Let's hope there's some 'check'

We live on the 5th floor of a 5 storey building..

..and there is no lift.

Each floor is separated by 18 steps, 9 in one direction and 9 in the other.

The steps are made of cement.

The railing is made of steel.

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I messaged Olga today asking to buzz me when she & Dunia return from their walk if she would like that I assist with bringing Dunia upstairs.

She buzzed.

I went downstairs.

I met Olga at near to the third storey.

Dunia was back on the second.

Why?

Because "Dunia wants to climb the steps by herself".

No problem with that scenario.

(But what about the backup factor - in the event of a slip or even given the size of the gaps within the railing itself?)

I asked Olga if it was agreeable to her that we always ensure that one of us is behind Dunia when she is climbing the steps.

..oops..hot button..

Olga went ballistic at me.

Screaming and ranting and raving that she ought to never have called me.. and vowing to never call in future.

As to the point regarding safety and the best interest of the child: not addressed, and clearly not appreciated that was even raised.

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I too am still trying to work it out.

"I am a patriot and will never leave this country"

Olga just complained about my method of using the toilet brush..

No, I'm not joking.

When I asked to be shown how it ought to be done properly, she responded "let the person you will live with teach you".

I stated I expected her to be this person. And I said that the driving force for this is the best interest of Dunia.

She said that she is not driven by this as the primary force, and that no she didn't carry the same expectation.

She then referred to orphans and their existence without parents (with the qualification that not all of them have dead parents, but rather some have parents who don't want them).

So you want to create the equivalent of an orphan Olga?..

or

orphans are now the benchmark for measuring acceptable parental decisions regarding home environment creation?

What does it mean when..

Your wife..

- scathingly attacks the way you look in clothing..

- calls you physically disproportionate, with a head too large for your body & torso needing more length..

and

- blames her original perceptions of attraction on you looking good when you are naked (or only in underwear.)

Jealousy & Sarcasm combined

"The perfect husband"

"Everybody wants to be with you; except me .. I've had enough of that experience, and that pleasure"

"We'll go and live with Barbushku"

..Olga exploded completely without cause and expressed her true intentions.

She also stated unequivocally: "I don't like your family".

Once again, jealousy & threats

Moments ago, Olga expressed her frustration that "She (Dunia) never asks me for anything. Always Daddy, Daddy.."

She threatened to fix this 'problem' soon. She stated the problem would be solved by her changing residence.

That is, by effectively kidnapping Dunia from her home and shutting Daddy out.

Whilst I hate to use vulgarisms..

It appears that the past week (with Dad's presence) resulted in fake goodwill on the part of the wife,

and one can now only say that "the B##ch is back".

Rude, impatient, angry, hostile, ill-willed, unappreciative...

Impatience has extended to Dunia more recently too .. particularly where she doesn't 'listen to what she is told to do'.

Dunia's perceived need for the breast is also being used against her where she is not compliant.

I thought I married a rich man

It turns out I married a misery.

A misery financially, mentally and physically.

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Provocation for this: the argument that Olga cannot do as she absolutely pleases (i.e. as her mother pleases) with Dunia.

When a wife is outright hostile towards you..

what do you do?

Another day, another lesson..

Following being mocked by Olga for unconscious (smiling/holding back smiling) lip movements I was apparently making whilst watching Dunia play,

I asked her,

"Would it make you happy if your mother mocked your father in this manner?"

the answer: "she did".

(..the explanation her mother gave her was that it was so that he would lose what she viewed as his 'bad habits'..)

..I asked again: does it make you happy to think of your father being mocked?

No answer.

Lifting a child's spirits..

Rightly or wrongly, I hold the view that where possible, one ought to build up the confidence and spirits of a child.

A contribution to this end is signifying approval or congratulations, when something clever/difficult/interesting/etc.. is done.

So it was a few days back when I gave a little verbal 'bravo' to Dunia, and a little clap.

She looked up at Olga after I did this, and I quietly asked 'Ol, a little clap'

Olga stared at me and said: "what? we're going to clap for everything!?..and when does this stop?.. you'll keep going until she is 30!?"

My reaction to this comment: silent shock.

Is there anyone, at any age, who doesn't enjoy a little 'bravo'? a little pat on the back? a little support?

The curse of jealousy

Unequivocally articulated last night: Olga is jealous of the relationship Dunia & I have.

The provocation for the barrage related to this point last night was Dunia coming to me and asking me to lift her up to the window-sill and have a look at stars.

Having contracted the cold Olga has had for the past week..

..and which Dunia has had for the past few days

I was moments ago attacked (literally verbal assault) for "looking sick, which is disgusting for a man".

I was then told that I am permanently sick (..a thorough piece of deductive reasoning by Olga based on my cleaning my sinus's daily).

Following this, I was told that my non-taking on of suggested 'naturopath' and 'folk' methods are a sound reason to not spend any more time with me (ie to break up our family).

She stated that my decision to take the 'shit from London' (ie the pharmacy purchased 'cold & flu' tablets) and not the naturopath suggestion was setting a bad example as a father.

Attacked for breathing...

...No kidding..

I woke up and kissed Dunia on the forehead three times.

It was still pre-7am & more sleep was to follow.. Olga asked me to turn my head away so that it faced away from Dunia (& her) - who was by this time sharing our morning bed.

It was very upsetting.

Not to mention completely illogical.

Olga has been sick since Saturday. Dunia has been sick for a few days as a result of contracting from Olga whatever it is she has...

Yet Olga asked that I keep my 'infected breathing' and 'kisses' away from Dunia.

Sickening.

Dad said the way to your wife's heart is through her mother..

...there's more to it here.

Tonight, the sister is playing beautician to Olga.

And she's speaking to her about other men as though she is a single lady without any attachments (..whilst assuming of course that I understand zero of their discussion..).

The other evening her mother was doing the same, regarding other men.

It's repugnant.

Is Dunia's best interest at heart in these actions/discussions?

If you define Dunia's best interest as excise her Dad from her daily life, and give her over to the maternal family in order that they raise her at their pleasure & leisure.

In other words: absolutely not.

As if inspired by the visit of her Mother & Sister...

...the wife's behaviour took a turn from irritable to much worse.

It's as though she's trying to impress them with

- a showcased toughness (aka rudeness, curtness, disrespect...) towards me, and

- a foundationless showing of discontent.

She appears to be trying to build the case in the minds of others to validate the position she has recently been articulating:

Stealing Dunia away from her father.

...

Olga behaves with less patience towards Dunia when her Mother is present too... in particular where Dunia does not comply with her Mothers' and Sisters' requests with immediacy and with reverential respect.

...

Her behaviour is clearly provocative, but I am remaining calm. Obvious reasons in so far as providing grounds for her attack..

But even more so:

THE IMPACT ON DUNIA ... Herein lies my greatest upset.

Mother claims to love Dunia... and yet notwithstanding the number of occasions where (during lighter moments in particular) I have shared the importance of not being loud-aggressive-abusive-attacking in Dunia's presence (..I actually request that this be the case in general, but MUCH MORESO when Dunia is present)...

Olga continues and continues to be abusive-aggressive... in full view of the little-fragile one.

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Note re FATHERING:

Olga articulated an hour ago that my active and immediate responsiveness to Dunia's calls for interaction/assistance etc are a source of great irritation for her.

...Additionally, this evening, it irked Olga that when her Mother and Sister arrived, Dunia did not immediately run to meet them. Dunia & I happened to be in the middle of watching a little skit she loves and we finished off an extra minute before joining the guests.

...Oh yeah... the fact that I carried Dunia into the kitchen to greet the arrivals was met with irritation too (..maybe even moreso when I had to insist that she leave my arms).

Literally antagonistic towards father and his relationship with daughter..

Olga is articulating that she, the mother, is clearly the most important parent to the child.

Further, she is expressing that the child will be fine without having father present fulltime.

She articulates that grandfather is favourite, possibly in order to validate in her mind the false belief that tearing daughter away from father is ok.

She is joyful when her parents are present and interact with Dunia.

She is frustrated when Dunia continues to express more interest in me when they are present.

She is angry when Dunia clearly has fun with me, or agrees to do something that moments ago she was not agreeable to with her. The fact that I simply employed a creative solution (such as having her focus on the bus's going past or something in order to coax her into eating) plays no role in her thought process.

This behaviour against me is upsetting at best. More accurately, it is abhorrent.

Either way, you cannot win..

The other half is sick. She has been for the past few days. The daughter has contracted whatever it is that the wife has too.

After the girls woke from an afternoon sleep, I just asked the wife how she is feeling.

"I don't need your CV questions" .. "I don't want to answer your questions when you don't really care" ..

Let me repeat, I had unprovoked, approach and "how are you feeling Ola?"... and I was attacked for not caring sufficiently in my manner of question.

(Is her response simply a case of : projection by the wife of her sentiments towards and approach to me?)

Going back a step, if I had not asked, if I did not buy lemons and ginger, check consistently what is needed from the shops, check what is desired in the way of drinks or food...etc... which obviously has been occurring, I would have been accused of not caring.

It is a ridiculous situation where whatever action is taken, one cannot enjoy a positive outcome.

Three times I have asked you to put the toothpaste the right way up!!!

..and when the water is boiling on the stove, you don't tilt the lid up, you turn the temperature down!!!

Why do people ask what's wrong??

What is wrong is you!

...

Completely ignored is that when I walked in the house half an hour earlier, Dunia was screaming and banging on the kitchen table.

When I am walking out now, Dunia is now content - having been fed (as per my noting her needs) and attended to.

Strange priorities by 'mother'.

Ridiculous attacks.

My daughter shared her apple with me..

Mother screamed..

"That's not hygienic"

..she took the apple from the little one's hands, cut off the sections that had been bitten by myself and then returned it to her

When I disagreed with the statement "You don't understand me!"

...elaboration was given by the wife to make the point.

And I quote..:

"You don't give me flowers!"

"You don't give me presents!"

"Yes, yes, I am a material girl! ... Every girl is a material girl"

"We live in a material world"

...and then...

"But it's too late now, because I no longer want anything with you"

Frustration was expressed that the conversation with my brother yesterday led to her "understanding" me better... that is, the brother expressed that he has never bought an article of jewellery for the wife -- and yet she is still very happy with him.. this was somewhat strange to her

The absolute antithesis of a supportive wife..

..Never in my life had I seen a person have their toast corrected. When I say toast, I do indeed mean the articulation of one's personal thoughts or feelings on the subject of the toast.

Yet, tonight, with the little one's maternal aunt, maternal grandmother, maternal grandfather, maternal grandmothers' mother present as I made the toast.. the 'wife' stepped in when I said "..to my oxygen".

Antagonistically & virulently, she leapt and barked that she is not 'your' oxygen (!), she is everyone's..

It is perfectly fine (in the wifes' book of fine practice) for maternal family members to refer to 'my girl', 'my love', 'my dear'..... but if Daddy does it, no matter the context, look out...

"I am the most important parent"

..was the unequivocal articulation by Mum.

My active involvement (and reciprocated love) with my daughter is regarded as interference by the self-centred and jealousy-hatred filled mother.

After admitting that she consciously creates fights..

..and avoids creating or seeking any harmony with me...

She then blames me for being the person with whom "I cannot have harmony".

When I ask her to share what it is she wants, she does not provide an answer.

She simply attacks and goes on a rampage, she literally spits out onto the floor and screams that she is going to take our daughter away from me.

When I ask her to please not scream in front of the little one, she says that it is my fault that she screams and that it's not for me to tell her how to express herself.

She gets angry at my closeness to our daughter, and is actively trying to have her father enjoy a bond that will in her mind provide a replacement for the little ones' real father; that is, me.

"Just because you're born not white"

"..this is your problem and why you want so much"

..

"Stop talking to me about politics. You're not a politician"

..

..the above were responses/outbursts when I shared some details of what I was listening to - after being asked 'what are you listening to'?

..it was/is a BBC podcast documentary about the changing politics in Northern Europe

Sperm and sustenance

..appears to be what was wanted

..with 'sustenance' of course translated as cash on tap without strings

Fine distinctions - from versus with

"I said I wanted to have a baby from you.. I didn't say with you"

"Ok I said I love you, but how many times did I say it.."

Words of a loving mother who moments earlier harassed an almost two year old because she had chosen to go for a walk with her Daddy to the shops.. as this was interpreted as treating Mummy as a stranger (given that Mummy had originally taken her out of the house for a walk)..

"Your father is a liar, he cheated on us"

Mother screamed to daughter moments ago,

as she physically struck me on the back and head several times.

Happy Valentines Day

PS - I am wondering about the concept of projection.. what do you say Shakespeare?

"The lady doth protest too much, methinks."

Mother-in-law - what is your role?

I wonder what the role of the mother-in-law is.

If she is a dictator in her own home, is she to teach a daughter who doesn't have the same nature to become the same as her?

Is she to work to oust her daughters' husband if he is not molten compliant?

Is she to promote a focus on any and every negative that is possible to perceive and misperceive in her son-in-law?

Is she to plant seeds that lead to her daughter beginning to hate the father of their joint child?

Is she to re-link the umbilical cord between herself and her daughter, so that the inherent laziness in her daughter is played to and an utter dependence develops?

If she is unable to completely dominate the son-in-law, so that both he and her husband are her lapdogs, is she to speak of mothers who have divorced and re-married as though it is a perfectly natural path to take? (..knowing this will give her much more time with grand-daughter..)

Extended version of post-natal depression?

Everything negative or perceived to be negative is blamed on husband.

Yesterday, husband was even blamed for wife's lack of interest in dressing well/elegantly/attractively since giving birth.

Husband is blamed for wife choosing to not bother epilating/shaving, and to have legs almost as hairy as mine at times.

Husband is blamed for wife not having a good mood ... no chance that negative seeds planted by mother-in-law play any role.

Husband is blamed for daughter not being 'lucky' enough to have 'coloured (clarified as blue or green) eyes'

..oh, that was just last night

...cumulatively, the list is endless

Impatience with the baby

"I don't have the patience for you!!" (burst out Mum, when the 23 month old daughter resisted putting on her trousers after a pamper change).

Interestingly, she came and looked at my face soon after the outburst. I was staring at the book I'd been reading (but it seemed clear I wasn't reading at that second).

An attack on me followed. "I feel like I'm being monitored 24/7!"... I suspect this translated as I know what I said was wrong, and it pisses me of that you were present to hear it - along with other things I have said and done wrong with our daughter..

Expect everything + Appreciate nothing

..is I believe, a recipe for disaster.

Trying to contend with it real-time is not the easiest task.

No presents from the husband bring joy, no trips abroad are given value, criticism is found in every nook & cranny...

(admittedly, it's not only my gifts that get a negative wrap.. when the in-laws gave us a stroller, the first comment was not thank you. It was, why does it not have a certain feature that was desired?)

As if it wasn't enough that I wasn't attacked for my manner of laughing...

...the latest reproach was for my manner of sneezing

(a virulent outburst followed a sneeze today, with the follow-up that if I didn't adjust my manner of sneezing, I would be setting our daughter a bad example)

Anger that Daddy is close to his daughter

It causes consternation to Mum, that Dad is so committed to the little ones' development. She refers to his commitment as an obsession. As that Dad, I find this a spectacularly negative and sad perspective.

Jealousy is invoked, and a mood swing in Mum to the hardcore negative sets in, where the little princess shows clear and joy filled affection towards Daddy.

Dad's patience with the little one is a source of anger at times too .. particularly where some positive is pointed out in a behaviour that Mum considered inappropriate (..such as the spilling of a little water onto floorboards and then proceeding to the dry up the spillage with a pre-organised tea towel).

Only the single have lives

..says a mother of an amazing young daughter

When considering which people to invite for dinner or the like, it's been unequivocally stated that the people who are known to be single are the only ones worth inviting. The married ones only talk about "family" things; they don't have "real" lives.

Looks and brains of a child

What balance of time ought there be in the focus on each of these aspects?

Does one try to assist in developing a doll .. or a well-rounded, self-dependent, self-believing and socially aware human being?

Is it considered educative

..if your child learns expletives from your wifes' verbal attacks on you

or

..if your child learns to strike out at something or hit something as a result of seeing her Mum do the same against her Dad (where she is frustrated)

Does breastmilk have the same nutritional value...

...when the primary reason the mother is still giving it is to try to make the baby feel closer to her than to the father

..as she does not believe the father wants her in the family photo - notwithstanding that among MANY other things, he has spent the last two years in a foreign country where he doesn't even comprehend the language (in order to ensure unity in the family & healthy development of the little one).

When is someone a drug addict?

Does a drug need to be prohibited narcotic?

I'd suggest that a mother-in-law's willingness to daily wash her (married with a child & living seperately) daughters' dishes (& clothing & floors & childs' dirty bum &....) and cook her lunches (& dinners .. ) is a drug of epic significance ... especially where laziness is part of the constitutional make-up of the daughter.

Consequences? .. among many others, no need to develop self, self-reliance, a sense of responsibility.... No need to become a well-rounded Mummy.