My daughter shared her apple with me..

Mother screamed..

"That's not hygienic"

..she took the apple from the little one's hands, cut off the sections that had been bitten by myself and then returned it to her

When I disagreed with the statement "You don't understand me!"

...elaboration was given by the wife to make the point.

And I quote..:

"You don't give me flowers!"

"You don't give me presents!"

"Yes, yes, I am a material girl! ... Every girl is a material girl"

"We live in a material world"

...and then...

"But it's too late now, because I no longer want anything with you"

Frustration was expressed that the conversation with my brother yesterday led to her "understanding" me better... that is, the brother expressed that he has never bought an article of jewellery for the wife -- and yet she is still very happy with him.. this was somewhat strange to her

The absolute antithesis of a supportive wife..

..Never in my life had I seen a person have their toast corrected. When I say toast, I do indeed mean the articulation of one's personal thoughts or feelings on the subject of the toast.

Yet, tonight, with the little one's maternal aunt, maternal grandmother, maternal grandfather, maternal grandmothers' mother present as I made the toast.. the 'wife' stepped in when I said "..to my oxygen".

Antagonistically & virulently, she leapt and barked that she is not 'your' oxygen (!), she is everyone's..

It is perfectly fine (in the wifes' book of fine practice) for maternal family members to refer to 'my girl', 'my love', 'my dear'..... but if Daddy does it, no matter the context, look out...

"I am the most important parent"

..was the unequivocal articulation by Mum.

My active involvement (and reciprocated love) with my daughter is regarded as interference by the self-centred and jealousy-hatred filled mother.

After admitting that she consciously creates fights..

..and avoids creating or seeking any harmony with me...

She then blames me for being the person with whom "I cannot have harmony".

When I ask her to share what it is she wants, she does not provide an answer.

She simply attacks and goes on a rampage, she literally spits out onto the floor and screams that she is going to take our daughter away from me.

When I ask her to please not scream in front of the little one, she says that it is my fault that she screams and that it's not for me to tell her how to express herself.

She gets angry at my closeness to our daughter, and is actively trying to have her father enjoy a bond that will in her mind provide a replacement for the little ones' real father; that is, me.

"Just because you're born not white"

"..this is your problem and why you want so much"

..

"Stop talking to me about politics. You're not a politician"

..

..the above were responses/outbursts when I shared some details of what I was listening to - after being asked 'what are you listening to'?

..it was/is a BBC podcast documentary about the changing politics in Northern Europe

Sperm and sustenance

..appears to be what was wanted

..with 'sustenance' of course translated as cash on tap without strings

Fine distinctions - from versus with

"I said I wanted to have a baby from you.. I didn't say with you"

"Ok I said I love you, but how many times did I say it.."

Words of a loving mother who moments earlier harassed an almost two year old because she had chosen to go for a walk with her Daddy to the shops.. as this was interpreted as treating Mummy as a stranger (given that Mummy had originally taken her out of the house for a walk)..

"Your father is a liar, he cheated on us"

Mother screamed to daughter moments ago,

as she physically struck me on the back and head several times.

Happy Valentines Day

PS - I am wondering about the concept of projection.. what do you say Shakespeare?

"The lady doth protest too much, methinks."

Mother-in-law - what is your role?

I wonder what the role of the mother-in-law is.

If she is a dictator in her own home, is she to teach a daughter who doesn't have the same nature to become the same as her?

Is she to work to oust her daughters' husband if he is not molten compliant?

Is she to promote a focus on any and every negative that is possible to perceive and misperceive in her son-in-law?

Is she to plant seeds that lead to her daughter beginning to hate the father of their joint child?

Is she to re-link the umbilical cord between herself and her daughter, so that the inherent laziness in her daughter is played to and an utter dependence develops?

If she is unable to completely dominate the son-in-law, so that both he and her husband are her lapdogs, is she to speak of mothers who have divorced and re-married as though it is a perfectly natural path to take? (..knowing this will give her much more time with grand-daughter..)

Extended version of post-natal depression?

Everything negative or perceived to be negative is blamed on husband.

Yesterday, husband was even blamed for wife's lack of interest in dressing well/elegantly/attractively since giving birth.

Husband is blamed for wife choosing to not bother epilating/shaving, and to have legs almost as hairy as mine at times.

Husband is blamed for wife not having a good mood ... no chance that negative seeds planted by mother-in-law play any role.

Husband is blamed for daughter not being 'lucky' enough to have 'coloured (clarified as blue or green) eyes'

..oh, that was just last night

...cumulatively, the list is endless